My Day in Food

This week I’m  taking part in the 7th annual Diabetes Blog Week, which runs from 16th to 20th May. Founded by Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes. My Day in Food - Wildcard

WARNING - this post will be boring!!!

I feel like I’m the only person with diabetes in the world who doesn’t cook. I hate cooking!!! It goes back to my childhood where as the eldest girl it was expected that I would cook and I do NOT like being told what to do. 

It was also enabled by my husband, who when we met was vegetarian - I was reared on meat, potato & veg. I also am not a big fan of the spud either - am I really Irish!?! Anyways, he insisted on cooking and I didn't put up much of a fight. 

So here’s what someone with diabetes, who does NOT cook, who would be me, eats on an average day. And it will be, as expected, very boring!

Breakfast: Most mornings I go for the low calorie porridge. On weekends I go crazy and have 2 slices of wholemeal toast (dripping in butter😋😋😋) with two cups of tea. Can't function without a cup of good old Irish tea.

Mid Morning Snack; At least 2 cups of Coffee ☕☕ 

Lunch; Weekdays; Salad, protein, rye crackers for crunch! 😋😋😋😋 And a piece of fruit - whatever’s in season. On weekends; 2 egg omelette with whatever is in the fridge plus cheese, a slice of bread & a piece of fruit.

Mid Afternoon Snack: Tea this time. ☕☕ at least

Dinner: Could be anything! I am married to a wonderful man who DOES cook and is very, very good at it. In exchange I do LOTS of dishes - it’s actually in our pre-nup. This dinner is wholewheat spaghetti with a cooked from scratch tomato and a smoked sausage called cabanossi. And it was DE-licious!

Dessert: Every evening I have a little something nice like Chocolate or ice cream. Plus a last round of Tea. I know, I know but there are worse things out there and I don't have problems sleeping - so why not!

And that’s it! Like I said, it's not very interesting but it has minimum impact on my blood glucose levels and it's what I like and what works for me. Find what works for you:-)

The Clinic Appointment Fantasy

I’m  taking part in the 7th annual Diabetes Blog Week, which runs from 16th to 20th May. Founded by Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes. Today's topic is The Healthcare Experience Most people who live with a chronic illness end up with a lot of experience when it comes to dealing with health care. How would you improve or change your healthcare experience? What would you like to see happening during medical visits with your healthcare team? How about when dealing with your health insurance companies? What's your Healthcare Wish List or Biggest Frustration? Today is the day to share it all!

I think I’m one of those few people who has changed my diabetes healthcare team more than the average person with diabetes. My current count is 7 clinics/endos. Is that a lot? It feels like a lot!

I could tell you all the things that have been said to me that made me walk from all those clinics/endos but that’s just too depressing. Instead I am going to focus on what my ideal clinic appointment would be like.

Over the years, I have collected a few requirements that I liked from each clinic/consultant to compile my “wish list” of how I would like my appointments to go. It goes something like this;

1. Parking - you would think that when they built these giant hospitals, or even now that they are redeveloping them that they would build the multi storey car park first?!? I spent 40 minutes one day driving around until I got a space in a housing estate about ¼ mile away. IT'S A NIGHTMARE!!!
2. The Waiting Room - I recognise that not waiting at all is a bit too much to ask, so wouldn’t it be nice if the waiting room was more sociable? I mean it’s a mini-support group right there. And what if there was tea and coffee available? I drive 1 hour to my clinic - I’d kill for a cuppa! There isn’t even a vending machine at most clinics I”ve gone too. 
3. The person who does the health checks should identify him/herself as what she is, as well as her name. Sometimes it's a nurse, sometimes its a healthcare assistant - I would like to know.
4. The doctor-in-training I see next, I would like them to listen more, I know I will probably never see you again but find out more about me and learn from me. Start a personal file on me in addition to my medical file.
5. My endocrinologist - we will be seeing each other twice a year for a lot of years, so get to know me. My favourite consultant, who actually left me and not the other way around, always greeted me with a very firm handshake and a very hearty “How are you doing?” She actually meant it! And asked after my family. It was like being met with a hug.

Clinic visits are just so clinical. I spend so much time going through my team’s recommendations one by one, explaining why I don’t think they are going to work. I need to feel listened to. I would love to leave that building having met one or two new people in the waiting room, maybe even a friend, with a feeling of “I can do this” as I leave and have received a pat on the back NO MATTER WHAT!

NOTE: I also should point out that I am one of a minority who already has an insulin pump and a CGM. If I didn't have either of those devices my list would MOST definitely include access to them. Some Irish diabetes clinics don't even have insulin pump programmes or structured diabetes education and I am helping Diabetes Ireland advocate for these basic necessities.

The Importance of Diabetes Language - My Own

This week I’m  taking part in the 7th annual Diabetes Blog Week, which runs from 16th to 20th May. Founded by Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes. Language is so important in all aspects of life, isn’t it. Sticks and stones, and all that, really is a load of BS (and I don’t mean blood sugars). We advocate for the importance of using non-stigmatizing, inclusive and non-judgmental language when speaking about or to people with diabetes.

But last year, I realised that I have not been including myself in that advise - I, quite arrogantly, thought I was exempt. I mean, how could I, a fellow person with diabetes, offend other people with diabetes! Turns out, 23 years of living with diabetes only makes me an expert in MY diabetes.

I ventured out of my type 1 diabetes bubble last summer and met so many people who were just like me, except different - they had other types of diabetes. I listened to how they felt about their diabetes and about how people with type 1 diabetes inadvertently made them feel. I’ve always been concerned about how I was overshadowed and neglected as a adult with type 1 diabetes but realising how people with type 2 diabetes felt when all they get in mainstream media is judgement and stigma while people with type 1 diabetes gets sympathy and empathy.

How many times have I stated that type 1 diabetes isn’t caused by lifestyle? More than I can count. Since last year I have been very aware that I’m not doing anyone, least of all anyone with diabetes, any favours by using this language.

Language matters and I’m starting with my own. Since last year, I choose words that will not confirm any opinion that any diabetes is caused by being overweight or any factor of lifestyle. I explain my type 1 diabetes as what it is and not what it isn’t. I won’t say that my diabetes isn’t caused by lifestyle. I say it has no known cause.

I explain that type 2 diabetes has no known cause either. It has risk factors and I list ALL of them starting with the lesser known ones.

23 years of living with diabetes may seem like a long time but I still have a lot to learn.

The Other Half of Diabetes

This week I’m  taking part in the 7th annual Diabetes Blog Week, which runs from 16th to 20th May. Founded by Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes. Today's topic is The Other Half of Diabetes and I asked my other half, Mr. Blood Sugar Trampoline, who goes by the name of Phil, if he wanted to write something. I'm so thrilled he accepted. And speechless because.... well read for yourself.

The short version:

I've learned that we cannot control my wife's diabetes any more than we can control world hunger, but by taking a proactive role towards improving the healthcare environment and by supporting her empowerment, my anxiety over her health is not much different than my anxiety over my own health...and we're stronger as a couple because of her diabetes. 

The longer version:

Next week, Gráinne and I celebrate our fifteenth anniversary of married life together.  It has been a richly rewarding journey so far, and I look forward to continuing the journey for many many more years to come.  I met her a few years previous, playing together on a softball team.  I can't say as to when exactly I became aware she had type 1 diabetes; what I do remember is that as I began to learn her management regime, it seemed to my science-trained brain to be something fairly anachronistic...not that I really knew anything about medical best-practices for managing diabetes.

Back when I was 12 or so (in mid-80s USA), a boy in the grade behind me developed type 1 diabetes.  All the more we were told was that he was sick, he's better, but he can't eat any sugar.  "Here, try one of these diabetic candies!"  Yuck.  A decade later, I discovered a colleague had type 1 diabetes, she gave me a short primer that basically involved "testing blood sugar" and "injecting insulin."  But I was otherwise ignorant.

It turns out, Gráinne didn't really seem to know a whole lot more than me - she knew there was an HbA1C number, along with her periodic blood sugar measurements, that were supposed to be "good" but was quite difficult to hit.  And she knew that she needed to somehow adjust her insulin dose to her current blood sugar readings.  She certainly didn't know much (if anything) about carb counting.  As to what causes diabetes, how it affects the body, how behaviour and diet interact...these were all things that she wasn't learning from her doctor.

So I asked her "where can I learn more about this?" And I asked myself "how do we fix it?"

I suspect my reaction to diabetes is similar to PWD who are scientifically-minded and wanting to get on top of this thing...only I have the luxury of not having the terror that is "I am going to lose my vision and my limbs and die in childbirth."  (I failed to mention that as part of my diabetes education, I had seen Steel Magnolias, which frankly could be an entirely separate blog post.)

Certainly, there are echoes of my thinking in how a college roommate (and fellow physics major) took on his wife's type 1 diagnosis in her late 20's.  "This is surely just a simple function of carbohydrate, metabolism, insulin, and time that results in a blood glucose reading of X..."

As I am sure many of you were shocked to find out, it turns out it's not quite so simple.  Fats, the kinds of sugar (including alcohol), fibre, hormones (stress and otherwise), circadian rhythms, fatigue...and other variables like insulin that can go off, injection site, temperature.  OMG this thing is so damn FRUSTRATING.  And it's not even my body it's happening to.

About a year after getting married, we moved to Minneapolis for a few years of "getting to know my people."  We took advantage of the healthcare system there - my former colleague gave us a brilliant referral to a team of diabetes care professionals who really helped Gráinne learn some better tools and techniques for managing her diabetes.  For me, the most important outcome of this was that Gráinne started to become empowered in her own management.

When we moved back to Ireland, it was as if we stepped back in time.  There was no medical team looking after body and soul...just arrogant doctors who got upset when you didn't do everything you told them (eating the same food every day?  Seriously?).  It didn't seem that Irish doctors really understood the fact that diabetes is not a simple equation.  She has changed doctors way more frequently than is the norm in Ireland, seeking to find a fit as good as what she found in Minneapolis.

We can choose to see ineffective institutions as the enemy, playing the part of "victim."  The doctors are to blame, they're being paid the big bucks and are experts, they don't know what they're doing, they're hurting me more than helping me.  OR, we can choose to believe in the humanity of the individuals within these institutions and work to allow that to be expressed; the problem may be less with the individuals and more with the environment in which we all find ourselves.

So, in addition to shaping Gráinne's personal environment, we set out to improve the environment for everybody in Ireland.  We did this by getting involved with Diabetes Ireland (then called the Diabetes Federation of Ireland).  You learn a lot when you get out of a "selfish" mode of working - perspective builds empathy.  Community is empowering - there is great power in numbers. When these numbers are singing in concert while they're rowing in one direction, bureaucratic and institutional inertia can shift.

As a person I love deeply, I of course worry about Gráinne's physical health.  Her diabetes doesn't weigh on my mind anywhere near as much as it does on hers, but it's there.  Hypos scare me too (and selfishly, I'm glad Gráinne found that a CGM suits her...nighttime hypos she slept through are scary on a whole other level).

But being totally honest here, the thing I worry far more than her physical health is her mental health.  If Gráinne is stressed, that stress will invariably become my stress, and our family's stress.  If this stress were chronic, life would be pretty damn miserable for all of us.  Chronic health conditions can wear you out.  Ask anybody with Lyme disease, MS, Crohn's, HIV, chronic migraines, or frankly any other chronic condition.  But in some ways, type 1 diabetes is different.

 Type 1 asks its patients to undertake medical decisions multiple times per day, without consulting a medical professional, using nothing more than education and wits.  If you make the wrong decision you could end up in a coma or dead.  Or, if you make less-wrong decisions but do that a lot over time, you could end up blind or limbless.  And then there's the possibility of making the "right" decisions (i.e. one the medical professional would suggest), all of this bad stuff could happen to you anyhow.

What can I do to keep her head healthy?  I try to make sure she knows she's supported, and I try to "nudge" her in the direction she's looking but hesitating to head.  (As her confidence has built, there's been much less nudging.)  Sure there are down times, frustrating times.  She sometimes needs to vent, I can do nothing but sit there and listen, and give her a hug.

But that's not "diabetes life," that's "life life."  It just so happens we have this extra topic of stress and frustration that most other married couples don't have.  But we also have this extra source from which to build strength.

 When we said our marriage vows fifteen years ago, we already knew some of the "sickness" part.  We've been incredibly fortunate to be able to leverage that sickness into a source of strength and bonding.  If I could cure her diabetes, I would in an instant...but in some strange way I don't think I could imagine life without it.

Phil & I don't really talk about diabetes much, I suppose after 15+ years of being together there are somethings that you don't have to say but sometimes we might forget. Thank you Phil and here's to another fun-filled 15 years.

Phil, with some other woman :-) helping out at Thriveabetes 2015

Diabetes Blog Week

I’m sooooooooooooooooooo excited about taking part in my very first Diabetes Blog Week, the 7th annual Diabetes Blog Week, which runs from 16th to 20th May. I’ve admired Karen at Bitter Sweet Diabetes for a number of years so I’ll say it again. I’m soooooo excited!  We are all kicking off Diabetes Blog Week by talking about why we do what we do.

I write a blog because is a form of therapy for me - even since my early teens I used writing as a way to feel better about the world and about life. The making it public came about because I have too much to say and I like to listen. I’m part of a real-life diabetes support group and I need to zip it at those meetings. I do still talk and share at them but it’s my one opportunity to hear about other people's’ experiences and diabetes stories, and so I zip it as best I can.

So, Blood Sugar Trampoline is where I let it rip - nicely;-).

The most important diabetes awareness message I want to share is that the diabetes community needs to raise their voices if they want to improve our health service. At the moment, our health service is under resourced and inefficient. But the voice of the patient is a powerful one and a lot of us don’t realise that.

I’m passionate about fighting for the health service we, men, women and children with diabetes, deserve. It’s a big task and it’s a slow one. We have a lot of work to do in Ireland to improve our health service for people with diabetes and we only have only organisation trying to do it all. They are doing the best they can with their limited resources they have but they need us to help them. My husband told me back in 2007, that one of the ways you can make an organization better is to be part of it.

I hope that in some small way Blood Sugar Trampoline will inspire more people with diabetes to advocate for themselves and others. Many hands make light work!

Being "Diabetic"

I am very privileged to know lots of people in the diabetes community. I also know a lot of people who aren’t particularly bothered about being called “Diabetic”. I respect their choice on that. However, I am not one of those people. I may have been once when I felt so uncomfortable talking about my diabetes that I felt it was easier and quicker to say “I’m diabetic” rather than say “I have diabetes”.

These days though, the harsh sound of the ‘ic” at the end of the word makes me cringe. It’s like hearing nails scrape across a chalkboard. But I feel the soft “es” at the end of the word diabetes lessens the punch in the guts for me.

The very famous and very talented Kerri Sparling uses the tagline of “Diabetes doesn’t define me but it helps explain me” on her blog Sixuntilme.

I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister, former graphic designer, former payroll clerk, I’m Irish… etc. These are all things that define who I am.

I’m not going to give that kind of power to my diabetes.

I have blue eyes, fair sometimes blonde hair, fair skin, lots of freckles and I have type 1 diabetes. These are things that describe me and they are not all that important. What difference does it make if I have blue or purple eyes. Not much.

So for those who know me, I’m not a diabetic. I have diabetes. And for those who don't know me I ask that when you are talking to people with diabetes or about people with diabetes, please be aware that some don't like it. Thanks and appreciate it:-)

Here's what the American Diabetes Association has to say on the use of this term;

There's a reason the American Diabetes Association, Diabetes Forecast, and most scientific journals avoid using the term "diabetic" as a noun: People with the disease are diverse individuals, not a single entity. Some people identify themselves as "diabetics" and find that the term provides a useful narrative framework in which they manage the realities of living with the condition. But not everyone feels that way.

Many people with diabetes see the term as stigmatizing. They advocate that the language used to describe the condition and the person living with the condition be carefully distinguished. Another reason "diabetic" should be scrapped? Defining a group of individuals with a similar disease by their condition may prevent others, including family members and health care providers, from thinking about their experiences and needs as individuals.